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10 Things You Must Know About Dating Korean Girls

10 Things You Must Know About Dating Korean Girls

Note: The article ’10 Things You Must Know About Dating Korean Girls’  was meant to be for fun.  I am speaking from just my own personal experience as a white male and, of course, these points do not refer to all Korean women.   The information in this article is going to assume that you are indeed looking for a more substantial relationship rather than something that is short term.

Dating Korean Girls

Welcome to Korea.  You just arrived as a tourist, a new English teacher, a new exchange student or a factory worker.  Your goal is not only to travel, work or study here, but also to live here and experience the culture.  The best thing to overcome loneliness and improve your adjustment to the country would be to start dating a Korean woman.

Korean women are really the best girlfriends to have in the world.  They are pretty, cute, sexy, loyal, clean, sweet, fun and have an innocence about life that is quite refreshing.  After dating a Korean girl, many men get “Korean Fever”.

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So you start dating a local Korean girl, but quickly discover that dating a Korean girl is quite different than dating back home.  Your new relationship is full of cultural differences, linguistic misunderstandings and prejudice.

Here are  ten things you should know before you start dating Korean women.

#1   They Don’t Want to Look Easy

There is a prejudice and fear that foreigners think Korean girls are easy.  When a Korean girl dates a foreigner, they are scared that their new boyfriend may think they are easy. So, Korean women may be more cautious dating a foreign man than when dating a Korean man.  They are checking to see if you are just looking for an easy girl.

Treat the girl with respect, and don’t be too aggressive in the beginning and she will realize that you are looking for something more meaningful.  Pushing for ‘skinship’ or something more intimate too soon will cause her to doubt your intentions.

#2 You are a Playboy!

If you are a white, young, and somewhat handsome, male then a lot of Korean girls will quickly and automatically judge you as some sort of playboy or womanizer.  They know as a foreigner in Korea you attract a lot of attention and they may assume that you must have many girls chasing you.  They will certainly start any relationship with suspicion.  You are guilty until you can prove your innocence.

Early on, you may find that your new girlfriend will want to check your phone for evidence of you seeing another woman.  She may be aggressive about this, so be ready to hand over your phone. She wants to check your messages and photos and interrogate you about every female name and photo.   If you decline her requests to see your phone, then you are automatically guilty as a womanizer.

Don’t whine about it being your personal privacy, just hand over the damn phone. Hiding your phone just creates suspicion.  The act of allowing her access to your phone will go a long way in gaining her trust quickly and destroy her suspicions.

If you are stubborn and insist on not showing your phone, she will eventually get her hands on it and check it whether you like it or not.

#3 They Have a Fantasy About You

Some Korean women, especially older ones, tend to have a fantasy of meeting a foreigner and escaping patriarchal Korean society.  A lot of Korean women hate Korean traditions and culture which tend to favor Korean men. I don’t blame them.  So when they date a foreigner, you are an ‘out’.  You are clearly a more positive alternative than marrying a Korean guy and having to deal with an evil Korean mother-in-law or other intrusive family members.

When you start to date a Korean woman, they may already be thinking of marrying you and returning to your home country one day.  I suggest you be clear early in the relationship about your future plan about returning home and if that plan includes her.  Every girls hates it when their boyfriend says, “I’m going back home now… without you. Thanks for the year of free sex and being my tour guide. Bye”.  Well, they don’t actually say those words, but the meaning is similar.  Unfortunately, this situation is all too common.

#4  Family is Important

A Korean woman is very respectful, loyal and obedient to her parents and the parents, in turn, are very protective and meddlesome about their daughter’s personal affairs.  Even when a Korean girl is dating a Korean guy, parents have significant power in manipulating her choice of a potential husband.  Do not underestimate the power of the parents. Korean girls seek their parents’ approval and may end up breaking up with a guy if the parents disapprove and tell her to break up.

A Korean woman depends more on her family for support than a western woman.  Koreans tend to live with their family until they are married off in their late 20s or early 30s. As  result, they still have to follow their parents’ rules.  It is common for young women to have curfew even into their 30s.  The curfew time depends on the woman, but don’t be surprised if you are dating a girl who is 25 and she insists she has to be home by 10pm.

Usually, Koreans do not introduce their boyfriend or girlfriend until they are ready to marry. But when dating foreigner, they may want to test the waters about what the parental reaction will be before they decide on dating or marrying a foreigner.  Any meeting with the parents is a very serious event.

Take her family seriously and respect the rules of her house.  Keep the curfew as best you can.  Also, if you do meet her family, you’d better dress your best and be prepared to speak some Korean.  Even a few Korean words is enough to help win them over.

#5 You Will Be Koreanized

cute korean girl sex Dating Korean GirlsYou are dating in Korea, so naturally you will be expected to do things the Korean way.  You will be pressed to learn the Korean language, eat all kinds of Korean food, follow Korean fashion and follow proper Korean dating etiquette.

Korean Language

You may be urged to learn the Korean language as your relationship deepens.  It is not necessarily for your or her benefit, but rather she is already thinking ahead to the day you meet her parents.  She wants you to speak Korean to her family in the future.

Korean Food

You may be open to trying new food, but you may get served a squirming live octopus in front of you or freshly grilled dog.  Ok, the octopus and dog examples are extremes, but I am sure you will be presented with food you don’t like.   Respectfully decline the food and politely explain why you don’t want to or can’t eat it.

Korean Fashion
Imagine getting a new gift from your girlfriend, you open it up and it’s a lovely pink shirt.  Of course for Korean men, they are comfortable walking around in a pink shirts, but it may be something you would never even be caught dead in.  This may also be true for couple shirts.

I suggest setting the fashion rules early one. Go shopping together a few times and tell her the styles you like and don’t like.

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Dating Culture

You should follow Korean dating culture.  Be sure to know the special days here.  Also, be sure to buy appropriate gifts, like jewelry, flowers, expensive brand names, make-up, etc. for special occasions.

Also, you need to buy and wear a couple ring.  The couple ring is an important milestone in a relationship in Korea to show that you are in love and in an exclusive relationship with each other.

#6 Show Them the Money

korean_girls money sexy Dating Korean GirlsMoney, as in every country, is important in Korea.  Women like you to spend money on them and not be cheap. They like to go out and eat at nice restaurants.  They prefer their boyfriends to drive nice cars, have good jobs, take them on trips, buy them expensive gifts and, of course, pay for their plastic surgery if possible. Ok, the last one was a joke, kind of, but you get the point, they understandably like financially stable guys.  Certainly this is an international norm.

If you are actually a poor guy with no money then don’t worry. The keepers are not shallow. Korean women tend to be a little more forgiving of poorer foreigners.  They can recognize your love is genuine and they are smart enough to know this is more valuable.

 

 

#7 You are in a Competition

guy korea Dating Korean GirlsEverywhere you go, everything you buy for her and every sweet word you say will  be reported on Cyworld, Facebook, and Kakao talk with photo evidence.  She is in a life contest with her friends to see who has the most fun and the best boyfriend. Anything special will be communicated to her social network and she gains pleasure from positive and jealous responses from her friends.

Keep in mind that she is also monitoring her friends’ activities and what their boyfriends do for them, so be ready  for her to compare and complain if you are not as romantic or active as her middle school acquaintance’s boyfriend. Keep the dates fun, the food delicious and the gifts romantic or expensive and you will be considered a good boyfriend by her and the netizen review board.

 

 #8 Birth Control / Pregnancy

asian-cute-girl-koreanIt is true, Korean girls are just as curious to have sex with a foreigner as a new person coming to Korea.  They heard all the talk about your dick size and are eager to see the truth.  When the special moment does come, it is up to the guy to lead the way. Korean women can be quite passive in bed.

Korean women will trust you and expect the man to take control of birth control.  The two accepted methods are withdrawal and/or use a condom.  Getting a Korean women to take the “pill” will no doubt end in arguments of how dangerous it is and you are bad for recommending it.  Any other suggested form of birth control is just too foreign and will not even be considered.

Let’s move on to pregnancy and abortion.  Abortion is a sensitive topic, I am not making this into an argument of pro-choice or pro-family, I am just discussing the realities of Korea.

If a young Korean woman is impregnated by a Korean guy, and she doesn’t want to marry him, she will automatically know that a trip to the abortion clinic is the solution for her.  If she doesn’t want to go to the hospital to abort the baby, usually her family will intervene and push her towards an abortion. It is a rare thing to find a woman pregnant or with children before 26.  The sad truth is that Korea has one of the world’s largest abortion rates.

If she is made pregnant by a foreigner, then for you to suggest a trip to the hospital makes you an evil guy. She will hope you suggest taking her and the baby back to your home country, but if this is not meant to be, then she will just abort the baby.

The cost of an abortion is around 1,000,000 won and although abortion is officially illegal, you can easily find a clinic in every city.

#9 Break Up and Revenge

actress,asian,beautiful,cry,cute,drama,girl,korean,lee,yeon,hee,pretty,sad,sweetBreaking up with any girl can be a dangerous thing, especially if they are scorned.  If you dump them, they may have had their fantasy broken, feel betrayed,  and seek revenge. How can they get revenge? Well, they can interfere with your job or studies.  They can talk to your employer, teacher, Korean friends and try to make it look like you victimized them. They may call the police on any illegal activities you may be up to.  Be afraid, be very afraid.

 

 

 

 

 

#10 The Phone!

actress,asian,beautiful,cry,cute,drama,girl,korean,lee,yeon,hee,pretty,sad,sweetThis is without a doubt the most important things to know about dating a Korean woman.  You must follow the phone rules:

Always respond to her text messages promptly

If your k-girlfriend sends text messages, you should answer quickly. If you do not answer quickly, your girlfriend may complain that you are “eating” her messages.  She will complain and train you very well  to send morning messages, goodnight messages, and of course ask her if she has eaten breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Call her every day

A phone call from a boyfriend is an important daily event.  You should call as much as you can, but at the very least, you should give her a call in the late evening before bed.  You should be talkative and even if she calls you, you are expected to do the talking.  If you do not call her, expect an argument.

Never miss her call

If she calls you and you do not answer, you have just comitted the worst kind of crime. Expect her to start crazy calling.  100 calls in an hour + an equal number of text messages.  Her mind is already thinking about the slutty girl you must be with as the reason you do not answer the phone.

Phone arguments are very common with your new Korean girlfriend.  Do your best to follow the rules to limit these arguments.

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Dating Korean Girls Conclusion

I hope your relationship with your Korean girlfriend is a positive one.  Try to experience everything you can, but be respectful to her and her culture.  And who knows, like many foreigners these days, you may end up marrying a Korean woman and starting a family.

Let us know your experiences about dating Korean girls in the comments below.

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73 Responses to "10 Things You Must Know About Dating Korean Girls"

  1. Tim Ford says:

    A good insite to dating a Koren girl.

  2. Guy Korea says:

    Thanks for the comment.

  3. Korean girl says:

    This is not totally true. I wanted to say This is only slut case.

  4. yup but what abt korean boy.

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  6. Ricardo Ortiz says:

    Hahaha ok good to know.

  7. iam love sex whit girls korean

  8. Leila says:

    thanks.

  9. Kirk Brown says:

    haha, good post, a nice blend of cultural compassion and humour. even though I got mine to marry me I think your much more knowlegable.

  10. Korean says:

    Its totally fake. Why do you write these things?

  11. Haoyang2k7 says:

    I had always fantasized about Korean girls. wooooooo…. that was scary..lols …………SKYPE me ….want to have more friends online..ESPECIALLY KOREAN GIRLS..(hehe) let’s see how you really are :P

  12. Anonymous says:

    They should like the worse women in the world.
    Super jealous and attention seeking with out the pay off in bed.
    Why would anyone ever want to date a woman like that.?

  13. So Young Kim says:

    Im a korean girl, this is so true.

  14. Mira Han says:

    Where's "10 things you must know about dating Korean boys"?

  15. Helmi Wisc says:

    Well written… I find this spot on sir…

  16. 너같은거한테 안알려주죠 says:

    와~ 여자깔려고 작정했네 진짜 쓰레기다 이러고 외국인들이 한국에서 성범죄저지르면 안그래도 외국인 관리소홀하는데 저런 잘못된 인식을 심어주면서 한국와서 여자많이 따먹어봐라는 식으로 글쓰는 너같은 한국남 심보는 뭔데요 진짜 읽다 보니 화가 나네요 진짜 정작 외국에 유학하면서 한국남자에 대에 조롱하면 남자들 다 그런거아니다 젊은이들은 색각이 많이 유연해 지고 달라지고 있다 이러고 있는데 진짜 배신감이 느껴지네요 다시 말하지만 그쪽이 쓴 글만큼 그쪽의 생각도 더티하고 끔찍하네요

    • 윤소영 says:

      공감합니다. 외국인들에게 이런인식까지 심어주면서 …굉장히 불쾌하고 더럽네요
      저도 외국 유학오면서 한국남자들에 대한 좋은 인식들 심어주고 그러는데 화나네요 정말 이런 글을 왜 쓰는지 모르겠어요

    • ;;; says:

      저분 한국사람이아니라 자기가 외국인이라고 자기 경험을 토대로 한 얘기라고 했어요
      그리고 모든한국여자들에 대한 얘기도 아니라고 했고,
      한국여자들은 매력적이다, 존중하는마음으로 대해야 한다는 말도 했고
      무조건 까는건 아닌거 같은데..따먹는다는 표현은 외하시는지 모르겠네요
      한국여자들이 외국남자들한테 쉽게 보여지는걸 싫어한다고
      분명히 언급을 했는데요;; 솔직히 약간의 과장은 있지만
      사실인 부분도 많다고 봅니다

    • Anonymous says:

      조금 기분나쁜 글이기는 하지만 전혀 아니라고는 할수 없는 내용같아요ㅠㅠ

  17. Kddr Physics says:

    I don't believe any of this garbage honestly.

  18. Pantera AE says:

    Oh and Korean Women are very, very, jealous. Do not have another Korean girl as a friend..I found out the hard way!!!

  19. Julie says:

    That is sooooo true! I wonder who wrote this! :D

  20. Julian Tan says:

    Funniest thing ive read in a long time!

  21. Nadia Yap says:

    #9. Beware

  22. Nadia Yap says:

    You forgot to tag Raphael

  23. Nadia Yap says:

    You forgot to tag Raphael

  24. Ming Wang Lim says:

    Nadia Yap, Raphael already knows…

  25. 윤소영 says:

    외국인들에게 이런인식까지 심어주면서 …모두가 그런 것 처럼이야기를 하시네요. 전부가 그렇다는 식으로, 사실이긴합니다만 실제로는 저렇지 않죠;
    대한민국의 여성들이 다른나라로 매춘을 많이간다는 얘기도 있고 하지만 실제로 제 주변의 친구들은 외국인들에 대해 많이 원하지않아요. 환상은 있겠지만 저정도는 아니라고 봅니다. 전 현재 한국 남자친구 사귀고 있구요 이런 글을 쓰는 당신이 굉장히 불쾌하고 더럽네요

    • eunbyeol says:

      어느 부분이 더럽다는지 모르겠네요 ;;
      제대로 읽어나 보셨나..

    • soojin says:

      그런 의미로 환상 가지고 있다고 쓴거 아닌 것같은데..
      본인 경험 바탕으로 쓴거고 모든 사람한테 적용되는 건 아니라고 쓰셨는데
      오해하신거같네요

  26. So Young Kim says:

    that's not really my case, though. :)

  27. Korean f*ckr says:

    Korean girls are crazy horny

  28. Arsen Russian Term says:

    This is by FAR one of the most funniest, most enjoyable, and absolutely necessary articles I have ever read. Some key points stated in this masterpiece were just simply outrageously humorous. I thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience! Glad to have stumbled across this.

  29. Arsen Russian Term says:

    I now have this sudden urge to visit Korea to witness with my own eyes haha. And I do believe that there are many girls out there that probably have some different attributes than the ones mentioned here. But this was definitely expected in a manner or so haha.

  30. Hassan says:

    Thank you for the 10 advices. I have been living here since one year studying at yonsei universitg. I believe that those 10 point can not be applied on all korean girls. Because they have different characters and altittude. I have alot of korean friends girls and boys and all of them act differently. However, all korean girls like to be respected and treated well. also slowly approcing them when it comes to that moment. One thing i can add here they really like so much attension and want to be special.

    you do not expect to use weastren style with korean girls ! insted understand the korean culture and from there you can approch the good korean girls.

    if you looking for more easy girls, find a korean girl who has lived in america. they understand what you want!

  31. Ahmad says:

    I don’t know what to say but I did all more than this and she listened to her parents and I end up in hospital

  32. they are just like any other, or you could use this one to act like a kgf.

  33. 마이클 (Michael) says:

    I must say my experience was almost the opposite of this.
    She came to Canada to study and work. We began dating and after 3 months it ended.
    I bought her nice gifts, remembered and celebrated special events, took her out multiple times a week and called/texted her daily. Her parents objected to our relationship because I am not Korean but she refused their opinion and said they would come to understand I was a perfect match for her.
    I already knew of the Korean tradition of the “couples ring” and suggested it to her. She thought it was awesome that i knew about that but had no desire to get couple rings. To make matters more confusing, the next week, she spoke of wanting to marry me. I received the idea with great happiness and supported it fully. We even went ring shopping. I know all of that was really early in the relationship, but I wanted her to feel appreciated and loved.
    Then suddenly at the 3 month mark she went from saying “I love you”, as we fell asleep, to “We need time apart” – (which led to breaking up) the next morning.
    Confused and shut out from her life, I let her go and now I find myself ready to try again. I can honestly say I will be looking to date another Korean girl, only this time I will be better prepared.

    • Robin Shaw says:

      Thanks for sharing your story. This article is just for fun and should never be considered the bible of dating a Korean girl.

  34. Marc says:

    Wait, are you serious? You guys are willing to leave America , the land of freedom (aka free sex), just to b stuck in a place where to get women you have to keep your balls in a freezer, and be totally pussywhipped? Seriously man, let who check my phone? You guys need to come back home….. Don’t become vagina men… Have some self respect, for the love of G-D!

  35. Lenny says:

    Korean girls are fake, boring, retarded, and superficial.

    Get a white girl.

  36. WMD says:

    Well thanks. God bless. True but not sure:) for all that u said

  37. Lisa Kolumna says:

    #3 and #6 are the funniest! :D

  38. KaRam Yoon says:

    I wonder how many korean women this writer dated and made this ridiculous conclusion. #3 is not true but can't deny #6…

  39. Askger Hadwin says:

    #11 Never meet another girl without your korean girl friend, even it's just a friend. *observer Geng is near* D:~ :D

  40. Saschl Txyz says:

    haha – too funny :D oh god^^ where do you dig out such stuff everytime^^

  41. KaRam Yoon says:

    치김well, Korean women should be changed about 'being strongly jealous' ..we need more TRUST. I first couldn't understand for example my bf meeting female friends, but as time goes by, I was too harsh on that. now i know telationship works with trust and i can understand and will let my futurest bf meet female friends.

  42. KaRam Yoon says:

    Saschl Txyz from connectkorea.com
    you can click it

  43. Kevin Grabb says:

    If my date ever grabbed my phone and looked through it, I would grab it back and stick her with the bill.

  44. KaRam Yoon says:

    checking phone, email or SNS messages of someone is uncool and rude. I even can't check my brother's devices. privacy is privacy. in Korea, some women share their bf's password

  45. Sara says:

    Omg. Korean girls don’t have fantasy about foreigners staying in Korea. cos foreigners who teach at English language school are normally poor and uneducated in their country. That’s why they come to Korea. If they aren’t lower-class their home and if they could get a job in their country, Why do they work earning less money in Korea? How poor! I assure that intelligent korean girls are never interested to you. If you are in a relationship with a Korean girl, that girl pretends to love you to learn English or she is abnormal as you are in your country. Don’t be deceived.

  46. This has to be one of the most comprehensive articles on dating Korean girls. I should have read this article before I started dating Koreans. It would have helped so much. I also like the last part which is to answer the calls as quickly as possible. I got in trouble by this very quickly.. lol

  47. Anpan says:

    I have a Korean girlfriend, and (somewhat regretfully) left Japan to be with her in Seoul, even though I’m bored out of my mind here. We have our cultural misunderstandings and fights, but get along despite. My preference for Japan isn’t very popular with Koreans either, haha. Why don’t I go back to Japan and date a Japanese girl if I like there so much? Because Japanese girls are out of their mind, they are like robots. Everything they say and do is like taken from a manual and are about as emotional as a dead fish. Anyways, whether Korean or white girl, I don’t believe in showering any girl with gifts and expensive dinners, or carry all her shit when she did too much shopping, unless of course it’s some heavy luggage that couldn’t be avoided. There’s a difference between having manners and being someone’s doormat. Perhaps my Scandinavian mind works different, women want to be treated as equals, don’t they? I’ve witnessed way too many guys spending a fortune on their gf, just so she can keep her money for shopping and whatever while we guys go bankrupt. Where’s the fairness in that? Because she cares for me? Gives me sex? We guys do the same for the gf, and never expect to get a Playstation 4 or an iPhone, etc. in return. Keep paying for everything and your precious gf will have her mind set that love equals the money you spend on her. And I don’t always pick up when my gf calls or reply to messages, rather than her scolding me over this, she’s come to accept it, because this is the way I am, nothing that I’m proud of. Also, despite my gf being 100% Korean, she hates couple rings, couple outfits and never wants to inspect my phone, I wouldn’t let her either, even though my phone’s basically blank. She’s not into me having female friends though, which is ridiculous. I hate sports and other stuff that most guys like, which makes it nearly impossibe for me to have male friends, no matter how hard I tried. Female friends doesn’t equal wanna sleep with them. Sure I care for my gf. I cook for her, take care of her when she’s sick, we go out and do things together, and sometimes I grab the bill for coffee, dinner whatever, but made it clear from the beginning that I’m not her personal ATM. I do get to hear stories about how Korean guys do this and that for a girl. Tough luck. Also, Korean girls don’t throw themself over foreigners, it’s a ridiculous myth. It’s easier for Korean girls to date Korean guys, since they are, I quote someone else’s comment, “pussywhipped” and will do anything she tells him in exchange for some sex. I gotta say though that having a Korean girlfriend has given me more joy than any relationship with a Western girl. After 2 years in Japan, I’ve learned to realise that there’s something very masculine, dominant and threatening about Western women that makes me feel uneasy. They walk around in pants, messy hair and have this twisted idea of feminism, that being beautiful, sexy and doing your best to look good is degrading. Korean women smell better, dress better, have nicer skin, better hair, more manners etc, no wonder guys abandon white girls. There’s these stories about white guys taking advantage of Korean girls, not true. I treat my girl with respect and never expect her to do anything for me. I’m sure a lot of people may get pissed about reading this, but it’s just my own opinion speaking here. Guys should never take threats in a relationship, if she’s making unreasonable demands, or you feel “in trouble” just tell her the relationship is over if she has that many concerns.

  48. Usui Takumi says:

    well good experience :) thank you but ……. my korean girlfriend broke up with me a long time ago ! she said: "i want to live in presents". What is that supposed to mean ?

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  50. Sarah Lee says:

    I am a korean woman. i think it is for 60% of korean women..

  51. Sarah Lee says:

    that's true but not all of them.

  52. Sena says:

    It’s really interesting and funny:)
    but, in my case(I’m 21 Korean girl), I’ve never wondered about having sex with a foreigner ever…and most my friends are also too.
    I hope some foreigners not to have a misunderstanding of Korean girls…

  53. Peter Trong says:

    wow wel said and nw this time i kniw wht' s the important thing in life to b apart frm k-girlfriend is the abouve 10 lines and i wish i can get k-girlfriend by one day

  54. 커리 says:

    Nice article. But the delusion most korean women are attracted to “handsome” white men is grossly overstated, along with the assumption that it is always about appearance and money.

    The truth is as long as you are endearing and charming, it doesnt matter how much money you make or what color your skin is. I can personally attest.

  55. Sam Smith says:

    Need your help…am dating a k-girl, but we have not got over the stage of kissing
    …there is no lead from her…what i doing wrong?

  56. K says:

    Withdrawal is not a working form of contraception.

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